Monday 18 November 2013

THE MATRIX OF A DOOR


THE MATRIX OF A DOOR
(The art of entering and exiting)
 
Authentic leaders know when to enter and more importantly when to exit through a particular door.
 
For most people (leaders), entering is not a struggle. What most people (leaders) struggle with in the matrix of a door context is the exit factor. Whenever people get used to a particular state and modus operandi they voraciously resist anything otherwise. Anything which seeks to unsettle them from their zone of comfort is decapitated and truncated. 
 
I particularly consider five individuals as good examples of how it is marvelous when a person takes a bow when their time is up. 
 
The five are Nelson Mandela, Pep Guardiola, Alex Ferguson, Albert Einstein and Sachin Tendulkar. These five had their ups and downs and they experienced mountain tops and valleys in their careers just like everyone else does but what distinguishes them into the corridors of greatness is how they meticulously, sagaciously and elegantly exited.
 
The most exhilarating and protruding fact about how these five phenomenal individuals exited their territories is that their exit was not at all precipitated by exogenous factors premised upon failure and the loss of a fine touch. They exited while still at the top of their game. 
 
After having fought apartheid for over 30 years and successfully dismantling it, Nelson Mandela only served one presidential term and he exited. He spent almost 27 years in prison and he went through waters and fire just to dismantle apartheid. It would seem as though Mandela would be justified if he wanted to cling on to power because after all he paid a huge price but because he understood the exit factor in the matrix of a door, he let go when he had to. Neither caring for power nor its associated tributaries, Mandela relinquished his duties when he had to. 
 
Pep Guardiola, after assembling one of the best teams ever in the history of any sport he took a bow when the time was ripe. He had a fine run at Barcelona from 2008 to 2012. When he decided to quit as Barcelona head coach in order to take a time out, Pep's Barcelona only knew how to do one thing, redefining soccer. They redefined soccer and they won every trophy there was to win but Pep still had the wisdom and guts to exit when his time at the club was up. Upon his retirement from Barcelona this is what Pep Guardiola had to say, "The reason I am retiring is simple: four years is enough. I am drained and I need to fill up. The demand has been very high and a manager must be strong...time has taken its toll - I rise each day and don't feel the same. I am leaving with the understanding that I have done my duty...It’s time to go.” His exit was not triggered by failure. His time at Barcelona had expired. 
 
A few months ago, the exit of one of the best soccer coaches of all time from soccer dominated the media. After transforming Manchester United from a lackadaisical outfit to a championship outfit ever since his arrival at Old Trafford in 1986; Sir Alex Fergusson took a bow when it mattered most. He exited when he had to. His exit was not at all triggered by failure. At the time of his exit, he still had the novel ability of winning championships even with average material. His exit from Manchester United triggered a multitude of reactions throughout the world but what can't be disputed is the fact that one of the greatest soccer coaches of all time understood the exit factor in the matrix of a door. 

Albert Einstein’s name is not strange to many. He is widely regarded as the most influential person of the 20th century. With his name almost synonymous to genius due to his unprecedented, off the chain witty inventions, Einstein fully understood The Matrix of a Door. Despite all he did to uplift lives, despite the phenomenal aura and glow he exhibited, Einstein did not struggle to exit when it was time. This is what he said when he was dying after having refused surgery; “I want to go. It is tasteless to prolong life artificially. I have done my share, it is time to go.” Wow! What a way to exit the world. Very few people know when it’s time for them to go and let go.

This past week, the media was awash with the exit of yet another phenomenal sports person, Sachin Tendulkar a.k.a The God Of Cricket in India. Sachin undoubtedly inscribed his name in the corridors of best cricketers of all time. He broke all the records there were to break. He had the unique ability of winning games against the odds. While his form and prowess was still intact, Sachin decided to exit the game which he had become a master of. After having enjoyed a prolific and rewarding career spanning a period of 24 years, the talismanic Tendulkar elegantly exited the game. He was not forced into retirement by poor form or failure. While still a darling of cricket fans all over the world, he bowed out of cricket. He exited while he was still at the top of his game. “It is hard to believe that a wonderful journey had ended” said Tendulkar as he bowed out of international cricket. After all, what is unquestionable is that he exited when he had to. 
 
The norm in the world, Africa especially is that whenever a person gets to the top or accesses a particular terrain (door), they only exit when they are no longer necessary, wanted, at their best or when that would have looted everything. Now that is regrettable and unpalatable. All over the world, systems and institutions are collapsing because people do not understand the matrix of a door. People do not know when to enter and when to exit.
 
 As soon as some people get past the entrance factor, they deliberately choose to ignore the exit factor in the matrix of a door. Every door represents and speaks two things. These two are entrance and exit. No-matter who and what you do, always apply your heart to wisdom and timing. You must know when to enter and you must know when to exit through a particular door. Do not wait until you are no longer necessary, do not wait until you are no longer wanted and do not wait until you are no longer at your best to exit. Despite how painful it may be, exit when your time is up and do so elegantly. Do not hold on when you are no longer needed or when you can no longer perform at your best.

Great people know how to enter and exit certain doors. When they enter through a certain door, they make a place better than how it was when they first entered. When they exit, they leave a place better than how it was when they entered.

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Mwana Mutoko

Saturday 9 November 2013

Advise for AfriCANS by an AfriCAN.

In my work as a life coach and counselor I have certainly interacted with many Africans from different walks of life. What I have had to painfully come to grips with is the fact that our African culture has by and large molded us to be conservative and unnecessarily impalpable at times.
As such, it is not only hard for us to give love but we also struggle to receive love. We grow up in families and communities where the word 'LOVE' is foreign and considered a taboo. Some of us have never heard even our parents tell us that they love us. Growing up, i don't even recall even my siblings telling me they love me but of course we knew very well how to scold, fight and malign each other. Its only now after enlightenment that I for one take the onus to tell my siblings or parents that I love them.
The reality is really sad. Even married couples struggle to tell their mates that they love them. As our children grow up to be integrated into the bigger picture of the society all they would have learnt from their parents is how to say 'pfutseki'. Now that's sad.
This is to me the major reason why our continent is flooded with hatred witchcraft and enmity.
Fathers and mothers, brothers and sisters, I wish to let you know that the word 'LOVE' is not at all diabolical. If there is any word you aught to use more frequent than any other word, it is this blessed and sweet word, 'LOVE'. Let love be radiated in our families, workstations, schools and various institutions. You can start to unlearn, learn and relearn now. Find someone you will sincerely tell you love today.
Alvin Tofler's sentiment that, "The illiterates of the 21st century are not going to be people who can't read or write but those who can't unlearn, learn and relearn," rings true and factual to me. Africa, its time for us to Unlearn, learn and relearn.

Mwana Mutoko
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